Reactions are Reflections

Reactions are Reflections

By MartinJon Garcia……There are so many things we react to, each and every one 

can be learned from. Of course if we attempt to learn from every reaction we have we won’t have time for anything else, so let’s start with a big one, anger.

When I get angry, it is a clear sign that I am not in balance and some work needs to be done. I often hear people tell me that some person or thing “makes me angry.” I see how that can seem to be the case, especially in today’s world where we have been taught how to place blame if we have the slighted sense of being wronged. What I would like to go over in this post is that it isn’t the person, their actions or that “thing” that is actually making you angry, but it’s you, and your imbalances. I am sorry to break it to you.

When an experience comes my way in which I react with anger, I first have to separate the anger from what I might be blaming it on. It is not the guy who cut me off, it’s not my boss telling me to rework some nonsense, or the kids who picked my pocket, but it is only anger. When I can see the emotion for what it is, not judge those the brought it about in me, I can free myself up to examine it. In examining the emotions, and the circumstances that brought it about, I am in a better position to learn and move on.

Anger comes about for a lot of reasons, it is often an emotion that we use to cover up other emotions, it’s retaliatory. I hear people say “I have the right to be angry” and although they are right, anger is probably not what they are feeling. I say this because, just by saying “I have the right to…” they are justifying. That statement also presupposes that there is another observer which could be the self, the self that wants to do the work of healing. Here, the speaker is just looking for permission to be angry, because if they’re not able to be angry, they might have to admit they are not balanced. For myself this is 100% the case, and I actively work at understanding myself enough to accept that anger is needing more balance.

Once, in my early 20’s, I got so angry I reacted by slamming a heavy wooden door. It crushed, and mostly severed the tip of one of my fingers. After they put my fingertip back together, for months, I couldn’t help but look at how one split second changed my life forever, because my finger would never be the same again, and it was all because I got angry. Today I don’t remember what set me off but I do recall that as soon as I damaged my finger, whatever it was that made me angry didn’t matter anymore.

We permit ourselves to be angry for all sorts of reasons. I usually see people being angry to cover up a sense of weakness. This weakness is most often associated with shame and fear, but probably a whole host of other deep seeded issues as well. Unfortunately we don’t have the kind of culture that values the sort of personal work which would be able to remove anger from our vernacular.

When we see anger arise, there is something that needs our attention, something of us that is not being loved. When we take the time to listen to our emotions we can see the signs that are directing us to reflect and find our way to love ourselves in a deeper way. This sort of reflection will not only heal ourselves but it will heal the planet. Love may not be valued but it is valuable and there is no limit to it. I ask you to reflect on your anger and find the bits of you that need more love, because we can all use a little more.


I am a healer and helping others is an integral part of my life practice. My Portrait Project has seen me connect with over 500 people and make portraits of each of them.

This experience has driven me to develop a form of psychoenergetic healing that utilizes portraiture. I am looking to connect with healers, as well as individuals within the sciences, to work on these new developments and discoveries I am making.

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